If you remember the transitive property from your math class know that if A=B and B=C, then A=C.

That’s kinda what we’ve got here. We know that MyMarriageMatters.org equals MyMarriageMatters@gmail.com and AshleyMadison equals MyMarriageMatters@gmail.com. Therefore, we can safely conclude that MyMarriageMatters.org = AshleyMadison.

Oh yeah, here’s a copy of the letter from Ryan Hill threatening to sue me. Ironically, his repetitive denials of affiliation with the e-mail account is what caught him in a lie. Thanks Ryan.

So if Ryan didn’t email me (even though the same address was listed on his site), then who did? How about we take a look at what I like to call the Don’t Mess With Jarrod Post. There’s absolutely no reason why Trashy Madison would post a comment conforming prior email correspondence on my blog as Ryan Hill unless they were somehow involved with him.

What does Trashy Madison stand to gain by running a fake anti-Ashley Madison campaign? A lot actually. It’s called expanded advertising. MMM managed to get ad time during the NBA Playoffs. Trashy Madison probably wouldn’t be so fortunate. And if you look at the commercial, you’ll see a little too much Trashy Madison for an anti site.

Let’s not forget that people (divorce attorneys) don’t spend thousands (probably hundreds of thousands) of dollars for you to go to their site and sign a petition. When you go national with your causes, it means that you have a way that people can get actively involved and your organization has been around for more than about two months.

I’ve surfed the web and there’s so many people that called BS upon seeing the MMM commercial. It really didn’t even seem right. I’ve had the privilege of covering this story first hand and there’s other inconsistencies that I will keep to myself since it will be my word v. Ryan.

I honestly believed Ryan when he told me that he didn’t send those emails. However, after it was brought to my attention that Ryan used the same email address on his Facebook badge, I knew he was lying. I knew that he told me he wasn’t connected with the address on the phone, but I had no hard evidence. Then I stumbled back across Ryan’s letter…

I don’t want to hear any crazy theories (well what if a third party hacked into the accounts of both MMM and Trashy Madison?) because I think it’s a relatively simple issue here.

Oh yeah and if you’re still not convinced: tell me who would self fund a national anti-Ashley Madison campaign when your law firm’s site looks like this. By the way according to the letter and his voicemail, he’s the Law Offices of Ryan Hill or Ryan E. Hill, P.L.L.C.

But wait there’s more. Ryan said that he operates a “mid-sized” law firm, but there’s only three people shown on the front page. In fact, there’s not even one attorney named on the site. No attorney profiles or anything. If you search for “Can-Am Legal Services” he seems to be the only one associated with the firm. And if he’s a divorce attorney, then tell me what you see when you click on the areas of practice page.

Let’s not forget that the MyMarriageMatters.org is registered under Domains by Proxy, Inc., a company that specializes in concealing the identity of website registrants.

I could go on and on, but I think you get the point.

And if you’re still not convinced, here’s a cached version of his site with the e-mail address mymarriagematters@gmail.com listed on the Contact Us page. “Someone” later replaced this address with ryan@mymarriagematters.org.

There’s nothing in this world worth ending your life over…even if it is your fault.  Meet “Shattered.” He’s been married for 19 years and has two children.  That’s the good part.  The bad part according to him is:

I fooled around throughout my marriage because I could. I justified it by telling myself the women knew what they were doing, and I never made any false promises about leaving my wife. She suspected a couple of times, but always gave me the benefit of the doubt.

My last affair ended publicly with every gory detail exposed. My family, work, reputation — everything that mattered to me — have been destroyed. I can’t talk about any of it to a therapist because I am so ashamed. Friends, family and co-workers now shun me. I have hit rock bottom.

“Shattered” instructed Dear Abby to “print this as a warning to other men like me that when they hit bottom — as will surely happen — there’s nowhere to turn.”

Here is Dear Abby’s response:

There is life after divorce. And, as many celebrities can attest, there is also life after public embarrassment and career setbacks. So straighten your backbone and keep marching forward. While it may not seem like it right now, there are better days ahead.

I think she handled it well.  I would just add that you can’t run away from your problems.  Suicide is not going to make your family come back.  It’s only going to make them hurt more than they already do.  Being a man is about being liable for your actions.  You knew that this could have likely occurred and willingly took the risk in the midst of the consequences.  Would you have felt remorseful if you hadn’t gotten caught.  Being a risk-taker is about handling the good AND the bad.  You have to deal with this situation.  The first thing you have to do is think about the red flags from your marriage so that you won’t repeat the mistake.  What caused you to cheat in the first place?  Wrong woman? Wrong time?  I’ve lost out on a great relationship because of a mistake that I made in the past.  But your mistake will be in vain if you don’t use that experience to grow as a person.

We're #1 (On Mobile)

If you search for “manogamy” on Google, we ALWAYS come second to Urban Dictionary’s entry for “manogamy” (a misspelling of monogamy).  Google’s magic formula ranks sites by the strength of the source and apparently Urban Dictionary gets more hits than the Manogamy Movement (go figure, j/k). Anyway, I searched for “manogamy” on my iPhone non-Android device and guess which site came out on top? Yup, we’re #1 on Google Mobile.

Please keep coming back to the site (and tell a friend) so that we can be number wherever you access Google.

Sidenote:  We’re also #2 on Bing and Yahoo as well.

I’ve grown attached to the previous tagline “Misspelled with a Purpose” over the last 5 months, but decided that I should change it.  1) I think it may make the site easier to find on a Google search and 2) It’s a better description of what the site is.  That is all.

Simply put: “Because the Bible says so” doesn’t win arguments.  I am a Christian, but I know that in order to win people over the cause of monogamy, I’m going to have to use my lawyering skills.  That’s why I talk the game of logic to people.

Another reason is that by associating myself with a church, I have less control.  Whenever a preacher commits adultery, it would make us look bad.  Most recently, a prominent Texas pastor resigned after admitting to infidelity.  I’m not going to go into much detail, but you can read about it here.

What I envision for the Manogamy Movement is an army of men that are going to stand up for fidelity whether they follow organized religion or not.  I want men that are mentally strong.  And just because you go to church doesn’t mean you’re at the level where you need to be.

The Manogamy Movement is a website that is dedicated towards promoting monogamy amongst men.  There are two ways I can achieve that goal A) Post articles about monogamy/love OR B) Post articles about infidelity and then attack that behavior.  This website does both. If you look at the front page of my website, you will currently see the following articles.

1. Article about Trey Songz – Type A

2. Article about Ramsay Gordon – Type B

3. Article about Dr. Phil’s ridiculous theory on why men cheat – N/A

4. Article about Broadway play on infidelity – Type B

5. Article on Swedish princess – Type B

6. Article about Monogamy the movie – Type A

7.  Article about marriage via Skype – Type A

8. Article about Monogamy Mobile – N/A

9. Article about people that used volcanic ash as excuse to cheat – Type B

10. Family Guy episode about Peter resisting boss’ advances – Type A

So add that up.  That comes up to 4 articles about monogamy and 4 articles about infidelity.  How is it that the majority of my site is about infidelity (and just for the record, #11 & 12 are both Type A).

If you notice, my website is based on current events.  I have created a feed which I read everyday in Google Reader that consists of articles on monogamy and infidelity.  As you can imagine, infidelity is more noteworthy than monogamy.  I don’t post 75% of the articles that come up on my feed because I try to keep a fair balance.

And when I post articles, I always provide analysis of the situation.  I have never glorified infidelity in any article.  I always criticize the behavior and use it as an example of why we should support monogamy.

And if you want to filter the articles, you can go directly to my tag cloud:  L (liability), O (openness), V (visibility), and E (equality).

I put a lot of work into this site and it is already frustrating that I am fighting an uphill battle (apparently men that support monogamy is not newsworthy).  The last thing I need is someone attacking my efforts.

One of the biggest stories of the day is a statement from an Iranian cleric that he blaming the country’s earthquakes on women dressing promiscuously.  Here’s the most relevant quote:

“Many women who do not dress modestly … lead young men astray, corrupt their chastity and spread adultery in society, which (consequently) increases earthquakes,” Hojatoleslam Kazem Sedighi was quoted as saying by Iranian media.

I have the utmost respect for religious figures, but I must say that this is downright ignorant.  The real problem is that men have been faking fidelity for an extremely long time.

Because men never learned how to control themselves society

• Told women that they couldn’t enter the workforce
• Told women that they had to cover themselves up
• Made laws that prevented women from voting

Now society is starting to see the fruits of what happens when you don’t properly prepare yourself for marriage.  We have more options than ever to meet women and, moreover, to have an affair.

• A more educated society, providing you with access to more potential partners
• A more technologically advanced society with cell phones, e-mail, and  social networks

This explains why 20% of divorces cite Facebook as the cause of divorce.  People weren’t getting over their exes, they just lost contact with them.  Now that people have anonymous one-to-one communication with the world, we don’t know what to do with it.

Rather than blame women when men stand out, why not make a call for stronger men?  Infidelity is not an inevitably.  Being faithful now is harder than ever.  But that’s why we have to fight now more than ever.  Men have always been weak; our weaknesses were just hidden.  Now that they have been exposed, we need to focus on building mental strength instead of worrying about exposed women.

Source:  AP

Since when did family entertainment and TV ratings become mutually exclusive?  I’m only 25, so it’s not like I’m talking about the 1960s.  We had shows like Family Matters, Full House, Roc, Fresh Prince of Bel-Air, Boy Meets World, Saved By the Bell.  TGIF was the highlight of everyone’s week-old or young.

But now one  Jamie Jungers (one of Tiger’s h**s) and Michelle McGee (Jesse James’ h**) are close to getting a show for celebrity cheaters. (How ironic).  I’m sure Joey Greco is pretty upset, since catching Cheaters on film is his thing.

Anywho, we really need to reassess our priorities.  I watch cheaters because it is a legitimate attempt to provide entertainment and address a serious issue.  This proposed show, however, is a da** circus.

America is upset about all of this mess going on, but where’s the action or pushback???

Source:  TMZ

[Sigh] This everyone-is-doing-it, we-may-as-well-change-the-way-we-think-about-cheating argument is really getting old.

Dr. Formica addresses the dissonance between people’s views on cheating and practice. According to the Associated Press 90% of people find cheating objectionable, but yet 45-55% of women and 50-60% of men cheat (Journal of Couple & Relationship Therapy). Dr. Formica like Dr. Perel suggest that we maybe it’s time that we rethink our approach of exclusivity. At the end of the article, he poses the following questions:

Could it be that the reason that the U.S. has the 4th highest divorcerate (N=1000) in the world, and virtually every major European country has a rate that is half that or less be attributed to a more relaxed attitude toward monogamy as a social stricture and the at least tacit acceptance of on-going multiple relationships?

How many marriages in the U.S. where one partner is maintaining an on-going extra-marital relationship do not end in divorce, but would end in divorce if that extra-marital relationship were not present?

Could the answer to the second question support the premise proposed by the first question?

Is there such a thing as a healthy and contributory emotional affair?

Does the “work spouse” phenomenon simply mask a social or emotional affair?

Could having an affair of any sort actually be beneficial to a marriage, and could the explanation as to why 40% of affairs last more than 2 years be that they serve some function beyond narcissistic indulgence?

I love how ill-reasoned this approach is.

1) Does the evidence consider behaviors before marriage. From my experience, most men aren’t completely faithful when they say “I do.” How are you going to be faithful during marriage when you haven’t practiced at it/prepared for it?

2) Just because someone cheats doesn’t mean that they wouldn’t mind the other person cheating.

3) Relationships can only be monogamous or polyamorous because a relationship is a contract and only works based on mutual understanding. Apparently we should move from the former to the latter. If so, then

4) humans, especially men, are possessive by nature. I’m sorry, but there’s something wrong with a man that is fine with someone else sleeping with his wife/significant other.

Rather than fostering a society of punk a** men, how about we start motivating men to move toward being stronger advocates for fidelity. The real issue is we live in a society that doesn’t view monogamy. We first have to demonstrate not sleeping around doesn’t make you less of a man.

And that’s why we’re here.

Source: Psychology Today

Update: Provided sources to statistics which are also contained within the article

Ah, yet another article asking whether cheating has become normalized. The answer short and sweet is that it’s not normalized nor will it ever. This explains why Trashy Madison had 5.2 million members but less than 500 followers on Twitter.

Open relationships, like polyamory, have become more acceptable, but it’s not cheating because both parties agree to those terms. I HATE the polyamory movement but rather people both be on the same page than for one person to do dirt behind the other’s back. Cheating, by it’s very nature is a private/shameful endeavor. To prove the difference, think about how much money Trashy Madison would make if we became a polyamorous nation.

Source: http://www.thepittsburghchannel.com/news/22759573/detail.html