Sue Johnson, Director of the Ottawa Couple and Family Institute, wrote a piece today in the Psychology Today that makes some great points in defense of monogamy.  Rather than just copy and paste it, I think you should just read it here. (okay I’ll cheat and give you a little taste).

A more basic argument against monogamy is the theory that affairs are, in fact, inevitable precisely because sex is the most powerful instinct of all. Men in particular, as this theory goes, are sex addicts at heart. Given any opportunity at all, they are wired by evolution to pass on as many of theirgenes as possible and so achieve a kind of immortality. Oh please! This is a long way from more mundane motivations whispered in the pick up lines that I can remember. Having worked with and researched distressed couples for 30 years, I am more convinced by the view that most affairs are the result either of unbearable loneliness that happens when we don’t know how to make love work, or of preemptive attempts to grab at a loving monogamous bond when the one we are in seems to be dying and taking us with it.

I’ve always said that you’ve got to be dumb to cheat.  Cheating doesn’t make sense from a cost/benefit analysis standpoint.  Well now, I’ve got science on my side.

Dr. Satoshi Kanazawa of the London School of Economics and Political Science found that intelligent mere were more likely to place an emphasis on monogamy and sexual exclusivity.  Dr. Kanazawa says that it is a form of higher evolution.  The same pattern was not found amongst women.

Source: Telegraph

Monogamy: The American Way

Noel Biderman of Trashy Madison claims that the increase of his website indicates that adultery is becoming an accepted part of this country like apple pie or baseball.  Well here’s an article about monogamous animals.  While humans can try to pin monogamy on religion or some type or the government, you can’t argue against animals being monogamous.  Moreover, the bald eagle is one of the monogamous animals in the kingdom.  Could anything be more American than that?

Source: Huffington Post