You know, creating this blog is extremely frustrating because I always hear more bad than good about relationships.  But this story right here ranks up with Tiger Woods.  Larry King is 76 years old and still hasn’t learned a lesson about monogamy.   He has allegedly cheated on his wife Shawn Southwick with her sister Shannon Engermann for 5 years now.  According to the article, he was buying her cars and expensive gifts.

Now I must ask a couple of questions here.  First, why would you marry a man that has been married 7 times before?  I don’t know how most of these relationships ended, but I believe he cheated in some of these previous relationships as well.  Second, why is this 76 year old man still playing the field.  If he did cheat and lose a wife in the past, he’d presumably learn his lesson.  No so with this guy.  Third, what kind of family do you have if your sister would sleep with your husband?  Better yet, what kind of husband do you have if he would sleep with your sister?  Out of all the women that Larry King could (unfortunately) have…

I really feel bad for children out there that don’t have a monogamous father in the household.  I can’t think of anything else that would keep you grounded, especially with all this mess going on in the media.

Source: TMZ

As a Black man, this story really struck me as interesting. “David” is a former Marine that is low on dough. Consequently, he does some pornography films to pay some bills. He is later approached by a White man that wants David, a Black man with a 10-inch penis, to have sex with his wife for $300. All the husband asks is that he be able to watch and masturbate.

David accepts the arrangement, but things get weird over time. The man asks if he can “clean him off” (you have to read the article to see what this means” and later the man sets up a threesome with another friend’s wife. This is where David realizes that he’s sold out his soul and this is experience is eerily like a slave auction. I thought the exact same thing before reading those exact words in the article.

Both women look as if they’ve come off the same soccer mom assembly line—one blonde, one a redhead. Keeping his eyes on the new meat taking off her top, David manages to shake the husbands’ hands without looking at them.

The redhead has so much energy. “Let’s get a look him!” she chirps. Taking his hand, she directs him to stand up on one of the full sized beds. Unbuttoning his shirt, she gropes his pecs, “We gotta a strong one!” she leers, rushing to take off his shirt.

Naked save for a neon pink thong, the blonde joins in, unbuckling his belt. “I told you,” she gushes, “he’s a BIG black man!”

Pulling down his jeans and underwear simultaneously, the blonde reveals David’s thick 10 inches.

“You’re right!” the redhead gasps.

“Step back,” the blonde suggests. “You have to get a good look at him.” David is left standing on the bed, his jeans twisted around his ankles. “He’s beautiful, ain’t he?”

To David, their dialogue sounds as if it’s been scripted for them by a porno studio.

“He sure is,” Red agrees. “Six pack abs, and I love the tattoos.”

“He should work out on his calves more though,” notes the blonde.

“Yeah, why is it most black guys have skinny legs?” Red wants to know.

“You’re right! They always have little chicken legs!” the blonde continues, groping his muscles and moving on to his penis, assessing the merchandise as if he weren’t even in the room. They discuss the gap in his teeth, how his ears poke out, his muscular backside. “Look at his ass,” Blondie crows. “Except for those stretch marks, it’s perfect! He has little dimples!” (Red would agree if her jaws weren’t already extended to its limits.)

All the touching has made the women horny. They start to handle David with more purpose…and lust. He feels a strange conflict between pleasure and pride. “Look how low his balls drop,” purrs the blonde, fondling them. “I love it!”

David is flooded with an ancestral memory of being paraded and priced on an auction block. Watching the witnessing husbands whisper back and forth between one another stirs contempt in his heart.

A voice from the back commands: “We don’t have all day.” And so the three-way begins….

I’ve not even going to get on how ridiculous masturbating to someone sleeping with your wife is. There’s some sick, twisted stuff that goes on in this world. But what further infuriates me is the way it demeans Black men.

I just typed “interracial” in Google Images and I saw some of the mist offensive images in my life. As a Black man in an interracial relationship (my girlfriend is Egyptian), it pains me that orgies are so closely associated with interracial relationships. Interracial relationships are founded on love just like intraracial relationships and should be treated as such.

Source: AlterNet

Bruce and Wife

Bruce's Weakness

The gym is one of the best places to meet people.  One of my good friends from law school met her husband there.  I first saw my girlfriend at the gym.

The problem with the gym is that it’s a sampling error of society.  People that go to the gym are more likely to care about their looks.  That means they are going to be a high concentration of attractive women and men there.  Working out is good for your health, so it’s a necessary evil.  Unless you go to a single-sex gym, you’re going to need BOTH physical and mental strength to work out.

Bruce Springsteen found this out this out the hard way.  Bruce has been married for 18 years to singer Patti Scialfa, but just couldn’t take his eyes off of Mrs. Kelly when she was working out.  I honestly don’t have any advice for that except for look once and don’t look back (double-takes are never a good thing).

But Bruce went too far.  According to Mr. Kelly, Springsteen would stand behind his wife and tell her that she had “the nicest *ss in the gym.”  That’s the first problem, if you’re in a relationship, you have to learn how to shut your mouth and keep your thoughts to yourself.

Springsteen eventually started given Mrs. Kelly personal invitations to attend his shows and things allegedly heated up.  Mrs. Kelly was allegedly having dinner with Springsteen as her husband was undergoing open heart surgery.  The breaking point in the 17-year married for Mr. Kelly was when his wife was seen kissing Springsteen.  Mr. Kelly filed for divorce a year ago.

That’s a crazy story, but it all goes back to what we emphasize at the Manogamy Movement:  Building mental strength.  We know that it’s hard to control your thoughts, but none of this would have happened if Springsteen knew how to control his mouth.  He could have kept the “nice *ss” comment to himself.  He shouldn’t have given her personal invites to his shows and invited her to dinner.  Similarly, Mrs. Kelly should have learned how to politely refuse the kind gestures.

Source: Daily Mail

Say It Ain't So

It’s no secret that I’m a Google fanatic.  So when I heard that Google CEO Eric Schmidt “allegedly” had a mistress back in 2007, I nearly had a heart attack.  I don’t know too much about Kate Bohner; just that she’s somehow involved with the long seated Apple/Google war (Schmidt apparently gave her an iPhone prototype before it even came out).

Man mistresses get all of the perks.

Source: TUAW

You’ve read the title.  You all know how I feel about punishing people for infidelity.  This case is an example of how these laws need to be cleaned up off of the books.  I’m so appalled about this that instead of doing a post here, I’m going to write an Op-Ed. Hopefully it’ll get published.

Source: Greensboro News-Record

A 25-year-old Luwingu (Zambia) man took hot firewood and inserted it into his wife’s private parts after he caught her having sex with another man.

That’s it for the story, but there’s one other point worth mentioning

And Zambia Health Education and Communications Trust (ZHECT) Director Chilufya Mwaba-Phiri has attributed the rising cases of adultery in marriages to the Zambian culture which does not prepare married couples to discuss sexual issues with their partners.

Hmmm. Sounds very familiar….

Source: Post Zambia

R.I.P. Camille

A man from Trinidad and Tobago flew to London to kill his ex-girlfriend after he saw pictures of her and her new boyfriend together on Facebook?  That’s crazy.  What’s this world coming to?

Source: BBC News

I tried to come up with a better title, but there’s no other way to state it (so I used the one from the source, HipHopWired). Meet Samson Ojo.

Ojo is a 24-year-old married man with children.  Ojo took his family to see “Did You Hear About the Morgans.”  Ojo left the theatre and asked a woman for her phone number.  When she refused, he took her into an empty theatre and raped her.  He then returned to the theatre with his family to watch the movie.  Ojo has been charged with rape and kidnapping.

This guy is sick and this is probably the most shocking thing I’ve ever posted on this blog.  Although it’s not as shocking, I still want people to get to the point where we find the fact that he asked for the woman’s number objectionable as well (I bet a lot of people missed that reading the story).

Source: HipHopWired

Yes, you read the title right.  I didn’t mean canned or coned, they were canned with a rattan cane.  According to the article, this is the first time that the law has been enforced.  I guess we should be thankful that Malaysia is only a “moderate Muslim country.”  Sheesh.

Source: CNN International

…for me to forgive my wife for cheating on me with 200 people.  I don’t care if I am a preacher.  I’m gone if my significant other cheats once.  Props to my little brother for telling me about this.

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