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When he’s not fighting NBA players, Doug Christie fights for monogamy.  He and his wife Jackie have been married for 15 years.  They are releasing a new book called Luv-Pons in time for Valentine’s Day.  This is not their first book either.  I really support what they are doing, especially because they are an influential power couple.  According to the article:

About The Christies: Doug, is a 14-year NBA star, author/ producer, and Jackie, is a fashion designer/model, and CEO of five companies. As a team, they operate JackieChristie.com, the parent company to their film production company Infinite Love Productions, which co-produced “Committed: The Christies,” and their Hit Reality TV Show that aired nationwide on BET J. The power couple also operate their successful record label Jean Rah Fya Records.

Keep up with the Christies: Doug’s Website or Jackie’s Website

Source: PR Newswire

This story is really amazing.  Herbert (104) and Zelmyra (102) Fisher have celebrated 85 years of marriage and are not in the Guinness Book of World Records for the longest marriage.  They will be providing relationship advice via Twitter. You can submit questions by Feb. 12 at @longestmarried.  I already submitted mine and hope that I get picked.  I haven’t seen too much media coverage about this, but I really hope it picks up because people need to hear this story.  We have a 50% divorce rate in this country.  The Fisher’s serve as a true testament to the powers of love.  And that’s beautiful.

Read the full story.

I’ve spelled it out numerous times before…Technology puts your relationship to the test.  Many men don’t have the prevent themselves from clicking on a pornography website or sending a flirtatious Facebook message.  There was no such thing as [private, anonymous messages before the Internet.  We just had snail mail.

Also, we are more connected than ever.  Many men can’t handle the responsibility of knowing having the world of women (including exes) LITERALLY at their fingertips.

There’s honestly two solutions to problem:  1) Get self discipline or 2) Force self-disciple.  Getting self-discipline means to internalize the L tenet of Manogamy: Liability.  You’ve got to hold yourself liable for your online actions.  Or you can force self-discipline.  This is the O tenet of Manogamy: Openness.  If you can’t stop yourself from sending flirtatious messages, you need to give your significant other your Facebook password (like the woman at the end of the video).

Source: THV

Today I realized that my website was taking too much of a reactive stance on the issue of monogamy.  I was going after sites like Trashy Madison and not showing the positive side of monogamy.  So I vow that from now on I will do a better job of presenting my side.

I cannot think of a better way to start off than to talk about a TRUE American Hero – Mr. Clint Eastwood.  I am glad that Mr. Eastwood has stood up for monogamy because 1) he is a celebrity 2) he is the quintessence of the tough guy and 3) he has cheated before.  #3 is very important because it proves that its never too late to turn your life around.  I don’t believe that you can say that you’ve truly found “the one” until you openly practice monogamy.

Here’s what Mr. Eastwood had so say on the subject:

Clint, 79, is no longer interested in looking at other women and finally feels he has found the right one. Dina is 35 years younger than Clint and gave birth to daughter Morgan Eastwood months after they tied the knot.

The father-of-seven admits he has made mistakes in the past by being unfaithful in previous relationships, but he is confident he won’t stray again.

“I am living in my state of monogamy quite happily. Dina is everything I ever wanted and never found anywhere else. It took me until I was 65 to find her,” he said in an interview with Seven magazine. “Like they said at school, I’m a little slow – it takes me longer to do things. But, because I have had children at an older age, I’ve had time to learn patience that I didn’t have earlier in my life when I was more ambitious.”

If it’s good enough for Clint, it should be good enough for any man.

Source: Music Rooms

One of the great things about the Internet is that you can let the news come to you.  I created an Adultery bundle on Google Reader that notifies me whenever there is news about adultery.  I’m glad I’ve done this because I don’t miss a thing, like today’s great article (actually yesterday, but I wanted to wait until the new domain cleared).

Meet Jean Nero

Jean is a contributor to the little known Repository in Canton, OH. Jean said something that really resonated with me about what love is. And for that, I’ve tagged this article with L, O, V, and E.

Here’s the best part of the article.

I was washing dishes while Papa read the paper. Suddenly, he came over and said, “I want you to know something. I was never unfaithful to your mama.”

Hiding my surprise at such a topic, I replied, “No one ever thought you did! Secondly, you were 36 when Mama became paralyzed … if you had fallen to temptation once we would have understood.”

His answer: “No. I made a vow at the altar and I kept it.” With that he walked away, while I wondered, “What in the world brought that up?” Two minutes later he’s back, says with a twinkle, “Hey, don’t think I never had a chance to!”

We need more men like Papa Nero out there.  And that’s why I created this website.

I just read the following article on the “sex, lies, and lobbyists” going on at the Georgia Capitol. The article is very informative and I think that you should check it out. I tagged it with L, O, V, and E because I truly think that there wouldn’t be so much problems if people just followed my approach.

L – Liability. I don’t care who you are, you have got to hold yourselves accountable.  You should know what you are getting into when you run for elected office.  Maybe it’s a means to get your ego or something else stroked, but you’ve got to have some sense of personal accountability.  And it doesn’t help that other legislators remain silent when they know what is going on.  They essentially just ratify the behavior.

Perhaps the most amazing thing about Richardson’s downfall wasn’t an affair with a lobbyist. It’s that so many lawmakers now say the relationship had been common knowledge since at least 2007 but still drew no condemnation.

Lawmakers rarely challenge their colleagues’ behavior. During a debate over same-sex marriage in 2004, Rep. Alisha Morgan (D-Austell) broke protocol when she called out philandering lawmakers.

“I don’t go in anybody’s bedroom when you have a wife at home and you have somebody else up here,” Morgan, who opposed a ban on gay unions, told other lawmakers.

They were appalled — by her candor.

Morgan recalled the reaction: “Oh my God, how could you say that when this person’s wife is in the chamber?”

Adultery is “accepted behavior” at the Capitol, she said. “It’s just common knowledge. It is hypocrisy when you talk about family values when this is what you’re doing in your own lives to your families.”

O – Openness. Legislators obviously aren’t coveying to their significant others what is going on in Atlanta because if they were, I’m sure they would not approve.  If you cannot tell your significant other everything that you were doing, there’s a problem.

V- Visibility.  I know that many of these guys are away from home for a couple of months, but I must ask: Are these guys wearing their wedding rings?  Do they keep pictures of their family in their office?  You’ve got to let the world know that you are in a relationship and that lobbyists (or secretaries) need to back off.

E-Equality.  I’m sure that these guys would be upset if they knew that their wives were doing the same thing to them.  Remember the golden rule gentlemen…

Most of these men are college educated.  I’m sure that they had their fun back in their “glory days.”  Now it’s time to grow up.  You know your propensity to turn down women when you get married.  If you cannot be away from your wife for a couple months without giving in to temptation, then you may want to reconsider running for political office.  Or maybe that’s the reason they ran for political office.  Who knows…

Mission Statement

“Off the Market” seeks to enrich the lives of couples by offering a unique environment, exclusive services, and access to valuable resources for the ultimate benefit and honoring of the relationship between woman and man.

A new organization called Off the Market, founded by the wives and girlfriends of NFL players, aspires to make a lucrative business out of fidelity.  I fully support their mission.  They recently started up, but they’ve already been mentioned by the NYTimes.

Here’s a link to an in depth article: http://www.cnbc.com/id/34574582