Bruce and Wife

Bruce's Weakness

The gym is one of the best places to meet people.  One of my good friends from law school met her husband there.  I first saw my girlfriend at the gym.

The problem with the gym is that it’s a sampling error of society.  People that go to the gym are more likely to care about their looks.  That means they are going to be a high concentration of attractive women and men there.  Working out is good for your health, so it’s a necessary evil.  Unless you go to a single-sex gym, you’re going to need BOTH physical and mental strength to work out.

Bruce Springsteen found this out this out the hard way.  Bruce has been married for 18 years to singer Patti Scialfa, but just couldn’t take his eyes off of Mrs. Kelly when she was working out.  I honestly don’t have any advice for that except for look once and don’t look back (double-takes are never a good thing).

But Bruce went too far.  According to Mr. Kelly, Springsteen would stand behind his wife and tell her that she had “the nicest *ss in the gym.”  That’s the first problem, if you’re in a relationship, you have to learn how to shut your mouth and keep your thoughts to yourself.

Springsteen eventually started given Mrs. Kelly personal invitations to attend his shows and things allegedly heated up.  Mrs. Kelly was allegedly having dinner with Springsteen as her husband was undergoing open heart surgery.  The breaking point in the 17-year married for Mr. Kelly was when his wife was seen kissing Springsteen.  Mr. Kelly filed for divorce a year ago.

That’s a crazy story, but it all goes back to what we emphasize at the Manogamy Movement:  Building mental strength.  We know that it’s hard to control your thoughts, but none of this would have happened if Springsteen knew how to control his mouth.  He could have kept the “nice *ss” comment to himself.  He shouldn’t have given her personal invites to his shows and invited her to dinner.  Similarly, Mrs. Kelly should have learned how to politely refuse the kind gestures.

Source: Daily Mail

Chief Master Sargent William C. Gurney is the top enlisted man in the Air Force Materiel Command.  He has been charged with

seven specifications of adultery and misuse of official position; seven specifications of failure to obey an order or regulation, and dereliction of duty; two specifications of maltreatment, and two specifications of indecent conduct and wrongful sexual contact. In the military, specifications equate to charges.

after an accusation that Gurney sexually harassed a woman.

If this is true, then he’s a cheater in my book.  And he should be in yours too.  I often hear people, mostly men, say that it’s not cheating if there is no sex.  This is ridiculous to me.  Cheating is all about intent, just like any crime (cheating actually still is a crime in a few states).  You can be sentenced for attempted murder if you don’t kill someone.  Similarly, you if you attempt to cheat, you have still largely committed the crime.

I understand that flirting occurs.  Honestly, flirting is something that is so subconscious that I don’t think you can control it.  You can, however, control what comes out of you mouth.  Discussions about having sex with another person is per se wrong.  It doesn’t even have to rise to that level.  I still think it’s cheating if you say, “If I didn’t have a girlfriend/wife, I’d…” to someone you’re interested in.

Source: Dayton Daily News

I received a comment today equating our website to a gossip blog.  I must say that personally hurt.  The user said that we weren’t doing enough to provide tips for people that would like to know more about monogamy and fidelity.  This is something that I have been meaning to get around to, so I guess I deserve it.  So here it goes.  I’ll try to post these weekly as a series. In order to make it easy to access, I will create a page just for this post.