I thought suing your husband’s mistress was ridiculous, but this takes the cake.  Here’s the story: A Toronto woman (man those Canadians love to cheat) and mother of two was having an affair.  Her husband eventually found out about it when he noticed a bunch of long-distance calls to their residence.  He then left her.  And now she wants to sue the cell phone company for $600,000. Smh.

The woman alleges that Roger’s Wireless improperly terminated her phone bill under her maiden name and combined it with her family account.  The defense is that the woman was behind in her payments, so they canceled the defunct account and added it to one in which they were making payments.  The company also left a voicemail instructed them that they were going to terminate her personal account.  Also the company put all of the family accounts together once the husband decided to add more services to the account (phone, TV, Internet).

According to the article:

Nagy is deeply embarrassed and ashamed about what happened. “It was a mistake,” she said of the affair. “But I didn’t deserve to lose my life over it.”

After her husband left her and their two children, ages 6 and 7, she was so distraught her work performance suffered and she lost her job as an apartment rental agent that had paid her almost $100,000 until she was let go in Oct. 10, 2007. “The plaintiff wept uncontrollably at her workplace . . . and became incapable of performing her employment duties,” reads the statement of claim. Nagy says the employer was aware of the situation and that she was receiving medical attention.

Let’s get this straight.  YOU decide to sleep around on your husband.  YOU decide not to pay the account in your name.  And now YOU want to sue because your husband found out about it.  You’ve got some nerve.  You don’t deserve to have your life ruined because of this? Why not? Being an adult is about accepting responsibility.  It’s called liability.  If you are bold enough to cheat, you need to face up to the consequences.  If you want to blame someone, then look in the mirror.  $600K is not going to get your life back.

Source: Toronto Star

Meet Zac Goldsmith, age 35.  He was recently elected to parliament.   He’s also the son of a billionaire. And he’s an adulterer.  And his wife filed for divorce.  You know what that means.  Yeah the Manogamy Movement’s favorite letter: L (liability).  Like my mother, the philosopher, says, “You lay, you pay.”  She’s usually talking about getting someone pregnant before marriage, but the phrase certainly applies to people that have affairs.  Some people speculate that Goldsmith will have to fork out 150M pounds.  Mrs. Goldsmith may not get this much, but she’s going to be broken off nonetheless.

Zac got married nearly 11 years ago when he was 24.  He obviously wasn’t ready for marriage.  Goldsmith’s alleged flame was with Alice Rothschild, a 26-year-old “banking dynasty heiress.”  The crappy thing is that Alice’s sister Kate is married to Goldsmith’s brother Ben.  This means that she’s his sister-in-law.  Sucks to be you buddy, especially around the holidays (how awkward).

Source: Telegraph

There’s nothing in this world worth ending your life over…even if it is your fault.  Meet “Shattered.” He’s been married for 19 years and has two children.  That’s the good part.  The bad part according to him is:

I fooled around throughout my marriage because I could. I justified it by telling myself the women knew what they were doing, and I never made any false promises about leaving my wife. She suspected a couple of times, but always gave me the benefit of the doubt.

My last affair ended publicly with every gory detail exposed. My family, work, reputation — everything that mattered to me — have been destroyed. I can’t talk about any of it to a therapist because I am so ashamed. Friends, family and co-workers now shun me. I have hit rock bottom.

“Shattered” instructed Dear Abby to “print this as a warning to other men like me that when they hit bottom — as will surely happen — there’s nowhere to turn.”

Here is Dear Abby’s response:

There is life after divorce. And, as many celebrities can attest, there is also life after public embarrassment and career setbacks. So straighten your backbone and keep marching forward. While it may not seem like it right now, there are better days ahead.

I think she handled it well.  I would just add that you can’t run away from your problems.  Suicide is not going to make your family come back.  It’s only going to make them hurt more than they already do.  Being a man is about being liable for your actions.  You knew that this could have likely occurred and willingly took the risk in the midst of the consequences.  Would you have felt remorseful if you hadn’t gotten caught.  Being a risk-taker is about handling the good AND the bad.  You have to deal with this situation.  The first thing you have to do is think about the red flags from your marriage so that you won’t repeat the mistake.  What caused you to cheat in the first place?  Wrong woman? Wrong time?  I’ve lost out on a great relationship because of a mistake that I made in the past.  But your mistake will be in vain if you don’t use that experience to grow as a person.

One of my favorite things about Google Voice: embeddable voicemails.  Here’s a voicemail that I had my mom leave for Mother’s Day.  Enjoy.

A follower on Twitter was gracious enough to send over an article about celebrity couples that don’t cheat.  Here’s the list:

Kevin Bacon & Kyra Sedgwick

Michael J. Fox & Tracy Pollan

David Arquette & Courtney Cox

Source: Staying Loyal

Lord knows Halle Berry is has had her trouble with men.  Her first husband David Justice allegedly beat her and her second husband Eric Benet cheated on her.  Now she and her partner/father of her child Gabriel Aubry have split after a four year relationship.

Apparently there were two causes of the divorce – their 9-year age difference (she’s 43 and he’s 34) and his “wandering eye.”  According to the source:

The source adds that Gabriel’s wandering eye was also a factor in the split: “… he would never cheat on her, but I suspect that he had become attracted to someone and that he felt he needed to break it off with Halle before anything developed any further.”

I think Gabriel did the right thing here.  Many men have these feelings and think that they are normal, but in fact they are not.  It is okay to find other people attractive, but it is not okay to lust after someone to the point where you may make a mistake later on.  I MUCH rather him realize this beforehand, than to make a mistake and try to clean up things on the back end.  It’s not easy to break things off before you even cheat, but that’s a sign of true maturity.

I know that they have a child together, but they are not married.  Moreover, emotional affairs can be just as bad as physical ones.  If Halle truly were the apple of his eye, he wouldn’t be tempted like that.  And while 99% of men can’t understand why he would do this to her, I’ve been in a similar situation before and can attest that he did the right thing.

Source: Fox News

Peter Griffin is willing to lose is job to be faithful to Lois.  Good for you Peter! Check out this video (that I shortened by a few minutes).

One of the biggest stories of the day is a statement from an Iranian cleric that he blaming the country’s earthquakes on women dressing promiscuously.  Here’s the most relevant quote:

“Many women who do not dress modestly … lead young men astray, corrupt their chastity and spread adultery in society, which (consequently) increases earthquakes,” Hojatoleslam Kazem Sedighi was quoted as saying by Iranian media.

I have the utmost respect for religious figures, but I must say that this is downright ignorant.  The real problem is that men have been faking fidelity for an extremely long time.

Because men never learned how to control themselves society

• Told women that they couldn’t enter the workforce
• Told women that they had to cover themselves up
• Made laws that prevented women from voting

Now society is starting to see the fruits of what happens when you don’t properly prepare yourself for marriage.  We have more options than ever to meet women and, moreover, to have an affair.

• A more educated society, providing you with access to more potential partners
• A more technologically advanced society with cell phones, e-mail, and  social networks

This explains why 20% of divorces cite Facebook as the cause of divorce.  People weren’t getting over their exes, they just lost contact with them.  Now that people have anonymous one-to-one communication with the world, we don’t know what to do with it.

Rather than blame women when men stand out, why not make a call for stronger men?  Infidelity is not an inevitably.  Being faithful now is harder than ever.  But that’s why we have to fight now more than ever.  Men have always been weak; our weaknesses were just hidden.  Now that they have been exposed, we need to focus on building mental strength instead of worrying about exposed women.

Source:  AP

Watch the video below for a documentary on sex addiction by Winston Bennett, a former NBA player.  He talks about how he’s had sex with 90 different women in a month, how he cheated the day after his marriage, etc.

Where there’s smoke there’s fire.  That’s why I don’t understand the sex addict argument.  You don’t become a sex addict after you get married.  There’s a certain negligence that has to come with that.  Tiger’s wife is still a victim, but how do you not know that you’re husband is a sex addict (if such thing exists)?

According to Bennett, it’s natural for men to want to have sex and they will find a way whether it means having sex during the day or watching porn.  Given his concession, I don’t really see how we can classify his condition as an addition. Counselling didn’t appear to help his cause.

So what seems to be the solution?  Finding God and having people to hold him liable. That’s exactly why liability is the first part of L.O.V.E. You’ve got to hold yourself accountable and have people to hold you accountable. You can’t cheat unless you put yourself in a position to.

Source: Bossip

Sandra Bullock, renowned actress that recently won her first Academy Award, has left her Southern California home after news that her husband, Jesse James, had an 11-month affair with Michelle (Bombshell) McGee, a tattoo model and stripper

McGee grew up Amish, but obviously deviated from that lifestyle.

James was married twice before marrying Bullock, including a brief marriage to a porn star.  Did you know this Sandra?  After all, they did get married a year after meeting each other.

Anywho, the douchebag told McGee that he and Bullock were not together.  McGee says that she’s not homewrecker and would never had slept with him if she knew he was married.

I’m glad Bullock packed her stuff and headed out.  How will people hold themselves accountable unless the threat of loss becomes real?

Source: NY Daily News