This is always a hard question and I don’t know if there’s a right or wrong answer.  I personally don’t think it’s my business to out people that are cheating.  All I can do is live my life and hope that I can influence people not to cheat.  The Manogamy Movement is aimed at preventing people from cheating or getting people that are cheating to stop.  Exposing an affair is not going to change that behavior.

Q. My boyfriend and I spent the night with his best friend, “Jimmy,’’ and his girlfriend, “Eve.’’ My boyfriend asked me not to bring up the couple’s relationship troubles. Jimmy was cheating on Eve, even though they have two children together and planned to get married.

After the kids went to bed and the men went outside, Eve confided that she and Jimmy had issues in the bedroom — she thought it was a secret. I told her I already knew.

She asked me if I thought Jimmy was cheating on her. She was suspicious and said her counselor suggested she ask everybody she knew. Most people told Eve they didn’t know, or that Jimmy was faithful and a great guy. I know that a lot of his friends cheat on their girlfriends and encourage Jimmy to do the same. It disgusted me, and I told her everything. After that, Jimmy and Eve broke up, and Eve got full custody of the children.

Now Jimmy hates my boyfriend (not to mention me). But he treated Eve terribly and was physically abusive. My boyfriend is angry and says he lost one of his best friends because of me. He makes me feel guilty and brings it up at every opportunity.

Now wish I hadn’t said anything. Was I wrong? I thought I was doing the right thing.

FRIENDLESS

Source: Boston Globe

I’ve noticed a lot about racial interactions during my four years in college and four years in graduate school.  We all hate to generalize, but you can’t help but put things together when you’ve seen consistent trends for eight straight years (and seven years on Facebook).  So this is something that I’ve noticed.

White people like to hold hands in public. Black people don’t. White people like to put “In a Relationship” on Facebook.  Black people only put “In a Relationship” when they are engaged or married.

These are obviously generalizations, but I haven’t been wrong in too many instances.  I honestly can’t remember that last time I saw a Black couple holding hands.  On the other hand, I cannot walk a block from the law school to downtown Athens (which is about 3 minutes) without seeing a White couple holding hands.  I realize that there’s more White people in Athens, but these trends have held true when I’m home in Atlanta as well.

As far as the Facebook phenomenon goes, I have nearly 2000 friends.  The majority of them are Black.  The other day, I looked at the profiles of close Black friends that are in a relationship (and not engaged or married) and all but 3 left the relationship portion Black.  Some of these people have been dating for over 4 years.  Conversely, I can’t think of one White friend on Facebook that is in a relationship that’s not “Facebook official.”

So what’s the deal?  Is it that White people are more lovey dovey? Insecure?  What about Black people? Is it that they are more private? Just not touchy-feely?

I for one have always been skeptical of relationships that aren’t “Facebook official.” I just don’t buy that I’m a private person stuff. I just don’t see the difference between people knowing you are in a relationship in real life, but not on Facebook.

I don’t have the answers, but I just thought it was something to think about.

[Awesome] Source: Inside Facebook