L – Liability

1. Don’t initiate contact with people from your past (call, text, message, etc.). It’s just not a good idea. They’re in your past for a reason and there’s nothing to talk about. If you happen to see them in person, it’s perfectly fine to speak and catch up (anything else would be rude).

2. Be discerning with other people that you contact. There’s obviously nothing wrong with contacting your BFF of the opposite sex. But we all know how liberal people can get with the label friend. Most men have been in the “friend zone” at least once in their lives. And by friend zone, I mean that place where you like someone, but she only sees you as a friend. Nevertheless, you are cool with being friends because you think that hell may freeze over one day and you’ll have a shot. Definitely do not contact this person. And if

3. Learn how to ignore people. Even if you don’t initiate contact, someone can still contact you. If someone from your past sends you an innocuous message (”Just wanted to say hi”), it’s probably flirting. Responding to the message will only provide an avenue to continue the convo. Don’t let it get to that point. The same thing goes for people that randomly contact you. If you haven’t figured it out by now, if you receive a random message on Facebook from a person you barely know, they are most likely flirting with you. Signs that it’s flirting, they privately message you as opposed to writing on your wall. Poking is per se flirting.

4. Never use the phrase “If I didn’t have a [title of significant other], I’d”. You’re just asking for trouble. The point is that YOU DO have a significant other. Concealing overtly flirtatious behavior in prospective terms does not make it less flirtatious. Shut your mouth and keep your feelings to yourself.

5. Make conversation with others public. If someone sends you a private Facebook message, respond on the person’s wall UNLESS the matter is something the other person wouldn’t want disclosed publicly (i.e. domestic abuse). Keeping information public forces you to remain accountable for your actions.

6. Only speak when it is absolutely necessary. We’ve all had that girl that we were attracted to and went out of our way to talk to her. Learn how to spot her from across the room and keep it moving. The more you talk to her, the worse things will become.