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We know how to spell monogamy. That’s why our theme is “Misspelled with a Purpose.” The Manogamy Movement is a grassroots effort started by men for men. We are not psychologists and do not have formal training in the subject. We are just concerned men that want to make a change in society.
Our goal is to reform thought processes and behaviors. We want men to know that it is okay to remain faithful to your significant other. We aim to serve as a support system for men that want to be monogamous. Through having discussions on the topic, we aim to eliminate one of the biggest threats to relationships.
We believe that the key to successful relationships is LOVE
L – Liability. Realizing that there are consequences that surround your private actions. This includes actual infidelity, viewing pornography, visiting strip clubs, etc.
O – Openness. Sharing information with your significant other. Not keeping secrets and having a transparent relationship.
V – Visibility. We believe that relationships should be seen. Holding hands in public, telling people that you are in relationship, or anything you can do to let the public know that you are taken.
E – Equality. Treating your significant other as an equal in the relationship. Setting rules for the relationship that apply to both parties (don’t do anything that you wouldn’t want the other person doing to you).
This site is regularly updated with recent articles on the subject matter. The purpose of these articles are to 1) promote monogamy and 2) to criticize infidelity or demonstrate why infidelity is not the way to go. If you want to go straight to discussions on L, O, V, or E, just select the corresponding tags located at the bottom of the right hand column.
We know that we our task is not easy. But we are men. And men don’t back down to challenges.
as a woman, i’m a definite fan of this movement!
i’d like to make a sugggestion (i’ve worked in strategy for web design for a long time) if you simply differentiate the font color for the “Man” part of “Manogamy Movement”, i can pretty much guarantee you will no longer need the tagline OR to explain the misspelling. ever. good luck!
I think it’s a futile attempt. Over 100s of thousands of years, natural selection dictated only two things and programmed it into every living thing:
1.) Ensure your own survival
2.) Ensure survival of your kind
1) gives you fight-or-flight reflex, and makes you eat.
2) makes you find babies cute and worthy of protection. But even more so, it makes women look for the best gene donor and it makes men to want to impregnate as many women as possible.
Sounds primitive, but nature doesn’t know about modern social norms and this programming is still with us as it had been with our hunter/gatherer ancestors.
That’s why women typically look for alpha-male type partners. An athletic figure, a strong personality, a leader-type who can easily get others to follow him or entertain a whole group is usually more attractive than a frail, shy weakling. He promises to pass on genes that give the offspring a better chance of survival and success. And he will be able to provide food and protection when the female is unable to provide for herself during pregnancy and after childbirth. Which is also why women tend to look for more stable relationships, although it does not mean that she wouldn’t jump ship if something better comes along.
Men, on the other side, have an urge to pass on their genes and create as much offspring as they can. Of course today, we’re (usually) smart enough to take the actual pregnancies out of the equation, but the urge for sex with many women remains. It’s what makes men fight over women, it’s what makes them do all kinds of weird things to try and impress women. It’s what drives a HUGE sex industry, from pornography via strip clubs to prostitution. It’s the reason why there are Budweiser girls, booth babes at big trade shows and pit babes on race tracks. It’s what makes polygamy a phenomenon in every society known – from the old Egyptians via harems in the Middle East, mistresses and concubines in China, to the mormon offshoot of Christianity.
And indeed, people have been sleeping around since time began. What does that tell us? Seems to be human nature. Maybe the real screwed up thing is the expectation that you should have only one partner “until death do you part”? Good luck with your manogamy campaign!
@Michelle: all true, but polygamy doesn’t work because there are pretty much as many males as females born and polygamy would mean that many men don’t get a mating partner while the Alpha Male gets all the women in a community. Ad women aren’t particularly interested in polyandria because only one man at a time is needed for a woman to reproduce. Also, studies have shown that women prefer a different type of man depending on her cycle, being drawn to the Alpha Male fearless leader type at their most fertile, while finding the tamer, less aggresive men more attractive when they’re not ovulating. This is because the Alpha Male’s genes will ensure better survival and reproduction success chances of the offspring but the Beta Male is more likely to stick around, provide for and help raise the offspring. So what women do? They get attached with the Beta but have sex with the Alpha when opportunity arises. Commonly known as cheating.
That’s a phenomenon not even limited to human species. Going by nature, it would seem that serial monogamy is the best compromise for both genders as far as far as ensurig the survival of our kind goes. Or open relationships. It does not seem to be in human nature to remain monogamous with anyone. Whether we consciously choose to act against that nature is up to us, there are people who choose celibacy and claim to be happy.
“polygamy doesn’t work because there are pretty much as many males as females born and polygamy would mean that many men don’t get a mating partner while the Alpha Male gets all the women in a community.”
@Natalie: What you described there is exactly how things work in nature – the alpha male gets all the girls and the other guys get to look on. That’s why it’s called natural selection. Fair? No. But nature isn’t known to be fair; fairness is a human invention.
Now, I’m not saying we should follow these primal instincts and live in hordes again with tribe leaders getting all the females as in ancient cavemen times. I sure wouldn’t want to be wife 14 of some tyrant. All I’m saying is, these primal instincts are still with us. They subconsciously still dictate a large part of our behavior, whether we like it or not with our modern concepts of fairness and social norms. And that’s the reason a “manogamy movement” will never be more than a quirky idea of a random blogger.
I wasn’t aware of the different female preferences by cycle, but it makes perfect sense. Thanks! And yes, open relationship, I know I may get chastised by some for saying that, but in a limited form, it works great for me and my husband!
Jarrod –
Just found your site today – Lovin what you are doing. I am excited to look around!
stu@themarryblogger.com
This is what I’ve been preaching for years! I pray that there will be additional information I can garner from this site to increase the power of my messages & counseling sessions with men AND women. Thank You for being here.
This site will assist me in my counseling for men AND women, especially in my pre-marital session. Thank You for being here!
What a load of christian horse manure, no god, no jesus, just ignorant knuckle draggers who post sites like this
First off, anyone that leaves an anonymous comment is per se a coward. Second, anyone that attacks my site without backing their claim is ignorant. This blog is about monogamy. That has nothing to do with religion. I know athiests that think cheating is wrong. When you are ready to have an adult conversation, I’ll be here.
Glad the site is here, and I am glad you don’t seem to be overly religious. I’m a Pagan and have been happily married to my Pagan Gal for nearly 20 years. We believe in monogamy for ourselves and others that choose it, and we have always been faithful to each other and we are still sweethearts.
I like being married, and I recommend it to people all the time.