…he thinks it will just collect dust on shelves unless men change.  Rather than running away from a challenge, why not try to do something that will make a lasting impact on those who need it most?  That’s why I created this site.

Source: Salon

Unfortunately for relationships, this product doesn’t exist…

Call me old fashioned, but I’m not a fan of plastic surgery. If you don’t like your weight, go to the gym. Don’t like your nose? Marry someone that doesn’t mind it (trust me someone is out there).

We take body distortion to a whole new level in the US and now we have coupons to help us out. Why?

As I wrote previously, cellulite is natural. Think Kim Kardashian has a nice, perfectly round butt? Think again.

It’s just Photoshop. But if you look at the original photo, you’ll notice that she still has a nice butt.

Guys may privately complain about cellulite, but I don’t know of any heterosexual man that would have a problem getting aroused at the site of a naked Kim K.

I am typing this post on my 32 gig iPhone 3GS. I have over 5,000 songs on my phone. If that’s not enough, I can listen to music apps like Pandora.

With that being said, it should be east to find something to listen to, right? Wrong. I usually jump from one song to another after a few seconds. I have so much selection that I can’t seem to make up my mind.

Don’t get me wrong, I like being able to easily find a song by artist name or album with a voice command. But as a huge music fan, I’ve realized that I’ve increasingly been dissatisfied with my recent album selections.

Maybe it’s because the quality of music has deteriorated, but I only purchase albums from artists that I especially like. I don’t think it’s a coincidence that the only CD I’ve really liked this year was the one I have a physical copy of.

I usually buy albums on iTunes, but because my computer died months ago an Amazon had the new Kanye West album for $4, I bought it on my girlfriend’s computer and burned it to a disc.

I found myself actually listening to the album because if I wanted to hear something else I’d have to plug up my phone.

And even before we stored music digitally, we had hard copies of music. Sifting through a CD case is dangerous when you’re driving, so we at least listened to the same CD when the car was in motion.

If you think about it, the problem with too much music selection is also a problem with dating. There are too many ways to meet people and too many people to meet. The result? We don’t create meaningful relationships because we lack focus.

Facebook is great if you’re looking for a hookup, but not if you want more. You see, if you want to fall in love with something – be it an album or a person – you’ve got to give it your attention and not worry about what you’re missing out on.

I, for one, would rather have one person that makes me happy for life than thousands of women that I enjoy for a very brief time and then shuffle to the next one.

There are plenty of songs (and women) out there, but very few classics.

A “honey trap” is when a government uses a woman to lure someone with top secret information. It’s basically like all the James Bond movies. Assange turned himself in after Swedish authorities said he was wanted after two alleged incidents of rape, sexual molestation, and unlawful coercion. Slate has a good article on historical instances of men and women falling victim to a honey trap dating all the way back to Samson and Delilah.

A Your Tango article poses this question and I think it’s a good one. One of the reasons I am for monogamy is because it reflects equality in a relationship. Infidelity is a remnant of a society where men were superior and treated women as second-class citizens. Like domestic abuse, men that cheat often intentionally hurt their significant other and do not care about the pain they inflict.

I just read the State of our Unions Report by the National Marriage Project.  It’s 108 pages, but there’s not much text; it’s mostly charts.  I strongly recommend that you read it.  The following are things I found the most interesting.

1. The percentage of children born out of wedlock to college educated White women stayed at 2% from 1982 to 2008.  The number rose from 5% to 26% for Black women during this time period.  (C’mon educated Black people!)

2. Across the entire population, the marriage rate went from 73.5% in the early-1960s to 36% in the late-2000s.  The marriage rate decreased for both Blacks and Whites (they only races they reported).

3. Although people are getting married at lower rates, men are more likely to marry than women.

4. If you make more than $50,000, you have a 30% decrease in risk of divorce; college graduate 25%; wait at least seven months after marriage to have a child 24%; marry after 25 24%; come from an intact family (parents still married) 14%; and have a religious affiliation 14%

5. Where there has been a decline of Black men without college degrees living with their daughter’s mother, there has been an increase in Black men with college degrees living as a family.

The overall takeaway from the study is that GRADUATING from college leads to a better life.

I’m glad to see college educated men taking responsibility for their families, but it shouldn’t stop there.

Source: National Marriage Project

Today marks the one year anniversary of this site.  I just want to thank everyone for the support.  I’ve learned a lot about relationships during this year; more than I care to know to be quite honest.  I’ve made rookie blogger mistakes, i.e. not properly forwarding my @manogamy.com address to my personal Gmail account.  I’ve exposed Ashley Madison posing as a MyMarriageMatters.org.  I’ve been profiled by a couple sites.

The most rewarding thing happened to me just yesterday.  I received the following instant message from one of my high school friends:

him: seriuosly though, u have inspired me to manogamy in my next relationship

If I can inspire one man to be monogamous, then I’ve accomplished my goal.  And I hope that I’ve inspired more than him.

I’ve got BIG plans for the next year of the Manogamy Movement.  I still plan on blogging and tweeting.  I just signed up for a Tumblr account, so I’ll try that out.  I also have some big plans for my personal life which you’ll hear about shortly.

Again thank you and I hope that you will continue to stay on this journey with me.

Regards,

A. Jarrod Jenkins

What a mouthful. Pun intended. Meet Dr. Tammy Banovac. She’s a 52 year old woman that recently made headlines for showing up to an airport in just a bra and panties (while sitting in a wheelchair with her dog). Why? She claims she recently felt uncomfortable during a TSA patdown and wanted to show that she had no weapons of mass destruction.

Besides the fact that she looks like a complete psycho, you may have noticed that she looks very good for 52. Well it appears she posed nude in Playboy in an edition for dentists back in 1997 (approximately 39). Where Playboy discover her you may ask? But of course at the airport. (I guess she travels alot).

Even though she’s actually a dentist and not just playing make-believe like porn stars, she cannot practice because her license was taken away in 1993 after gross malpractice.

I can honestly say that I’ve never heard of anyone more peculiar than this woman.

How does this relate to Manogamy? I honestly don’t know, but I had to post this interesting find. If I have to piece it together, I’ll say to men: Don’t think that intelligent, beautiful women can’t be crazy.

Sources: The Lost Ogle and News OK

As I watched the Heat/Cavs game and the deep-seated hatred Cleveland has for Lebron James, I couldn’t help but think of a bitter ex.

The signs are all the same. Love. Then a breakup that you didn’t want. Then the other person moves on to someone better looking. Then the sophomoric antics by the jilted party (i.e. writing how much they hate you in a blog or on their Facebook blog.

Cleveland would have felt good about themselves if they would have won tonight. But they lost…badly. Now the fans really look crazy because they have nothing to show for it.

In a perfect world, Cleveland and bitter exes would always receive the vindication they seek. But that’s a perfect world. In real life, men leave their wives for younger, more attractive women and live happily ever after.

Finding happiness in someone else’s pain is only a temporary solution, however. If a jilted lover or Cavs fan truly wars to move on, they must first love themselves (or their team).

It was obvious that many people in that crowd were not Cavs fan, but rather Lebron fans. Lebron is not the team though. A true Cavs fan would love the team with or without him. And they’ll have the f*** it attitude and know that they will be fine without him.

Once you learn to love yourself or your team, you can then learn to love someone new. You may not even find someone better than your past love, but you won’t know until you try to let someone else into your heart.

And that’s all you can do.

Source: CBS Sports