[Note: This is just something that I have observed, so don't get upset]

1. He states he’s in a relationship. This is a gimme. Preferably he would link his profile, but at a minimum, he should say he is in a relationship.

2. He has a photo that doesn’t serve to gain attention. There’s no reason why a committed man is going to have a photo with his shirt off or standing next to a Ferrari.

3. He has photos with his significant other. More specifically, he has silly photos or ones that aren’t his significant at her best. It’s easy to show your significant other off when she has a smoking hot dress on, but what about when she has sweatpants on?

4. He doesn’t spend much time on Facebook. There’s really nothing to do on Facebook but check messages/wall posts and look at attractive women. The longer he spends on the site, the higher the probability that he’s eye humping someone.

5. He doesn’t have random (sig other doesn’t know about them) women commenting on his wall. Women can be bold, but I don’t know too many that will strike up a conversation with an old flame when he makes it clear that he is in a relationship (#1). It’s happened to me before and I just press delete.

6. He flirts with his significant other on Facebook.

7. He feels comfortable with his significant other around his profile. If you have to log out every time you leave the computer, you probably have something to hide. I know you can’t see this, but it’s still worth mentioning.

By now you’ve probably seen the story in Gawker alleging that Delaware Senatorial candidate Christine O’Donnell had a drunken, naked Halloween romp three years ago. The story—less than a week before the general election—was downright dirty. But it was not sexist.

The reason why this is a story is because O’Donnell is a huge proponent of sexual purity. These photos would be equally damning if she was a man speaking out against sex.

Similarly, the photos of Krystal Ball fellating a red dildo on her then-husband has nothing to do with sex. If her ex husband were running for the House, these photos would have come out. Let’s not forget that Scott Brown’s Cosmo shoot from when he was in law school was a big campaign issue. Ball can try to distance herself from the photos as much as she wants, but the truth is she, like Brown, was trust into the national spotlight because of it. And exposure = campaign contributions.

The truth is politics is a dirty game for both men and women. If you have anything that can be conceived as a skeleton, someone will bring it out.

Many people say we will have to accommodate changes on sexuality. I don’t think there is anything wrong with women expressing their sexuality, but that doesn’t mean you have to document it. There are just some things that should not end up on the Internet a la the Duke F*ck List. If you want to put your mouth around a dildo, don’t do it when there are cameras around.

There are real issues of sexism in politics such as Hillary Clinton being viewed as abrasive when this would be desirable for a male candidate. Also there were numerous (bogus) allegations that Nikki Haley committed adultery while she ran for governor of South Carolina. People don’t make up fake claims about male politicians committing affairs.

So the next time you think a woman is a target of sexism, stop and think whether a guy in the same category would have been treated the same way. Given the dirty nature of politics, if you did or said something, it will come back to haunt you male or female.

I started this site because I believe in the power of commitment amongst men. It seems like whenever you turn on the TV, there’s a new story about some guy cheating.

Men take note; women are watching these stories too. They don’t want a rich man like Tiger Woods if they are just going to end up like Elin. In the end, women prefer stability over riches.

Don’t believe me? Well according to a recent poll, women overwhelmingly prefer stability over a man that can take them shopping on Rodeo Drive. There are plenty of rich guys out there, but few that will say “I don’t and won’t cheat.”

According to the article, the economic downturn may have something to do with the rise in “pragmatics.”

Men should really be excited about this. I’ve always valued a woman that can appreciate the little things in life. Marriage is supposed to be “for richer or for poorer” and many people only seem to hear the latter. There’s no way to predict how anyone will act to foreclosure or a job loss in advance, but you can definitely rule her out as a potential soulmate if she can’t appreciate the dollar theatre.

So fellas PLEASE stop all the “flossing.” If you really were wealthy, you wouldn’t have to flaunt it and it’s not going to help you keep a woman if you ever find one.

Source: Daily Mail

There are some dumb people in this world. However, you’ve got to be an idiot if you think Trashy Madison’s sales pitch makes any sense. Trashy Madison is a company with the trademarked slogan “Life’s Short. Have an Affair” founded by a man that claims he doesn’t cheat. Does that make any sense? That’s like Steve Jobs saying iPhones are superior, but I prefer an Android.

This means that either a) Noel Biderman is a liar or b) there is value in monogamy.

The former is a possibility, as Trashy Madison has a history of deception. Think about it, how can you found a company like Trashy Madison and believe there is any value infidelity? People remain faithful because they believe in fidelity. If you don’t believe in it, there is nothing to keep you from straying. Moreover, after making a business of cheating, you naturally become desensitized to it.

There are obvious reasons for him to lie. 1) It makes him seem like less of an asshole when he makes a sales pitch. 2) It wouldn’t make his wife seem like an idiot. What kind of woman would stay with a man that openly cheats? At that point, it wouldn’t even be cheating because it would be an open marriage.

But what if he really is committed? This means there is value to fidelity. Trashy Madison recently tweeted that everyone’s doing it, but that certainly isn’t the case if your own CEO doesn’t. Rather than write books on how cheating saves marriages, maybe he should write a handbook on what he does to remain faithful.

I have my own view of which theory is correct, but either way, their pitch is full of crap.

There’s no such thing as the perfect woman, right? Based on what you see in magazines, one is led to believe that there is an objective standard of perfection.

I’ve have serious problems with women undergoing Botox and “tummy tuck” procedures. I also concerned about magazines that take it into their own hands to digitally alter their subject. I cannot decide which I detest more because it’s like the chicken and the egg dilemma. Either way, it needs to stop.

1. It’s causing people to try to achieve a standard that doesn’t exist. That’s the beauty of beauty: everyone has an attribute that makes them unique. So what if you a weird nose? People want to look like (or have their significant other look like) Kim Kardashian, but even Kim K doesn’t look like Kim K. Just take a look at the infamous Complex shoot where they accidentally posted the original proofs. Yes Kim K has cellulite, big thighs, a little pooch, and a waist that is larger than we thought. That comes from having a large butt. I honestly wouldn’t have seen anything wrong with the original and most people — male or female — would be happy to look like unedited Kim.

2. It makes us less tolerant of imperfections. Let’s say you didn’t know Kim K had cellulite, you’d probably be turned off by the sight of that girl you got naked for the first time. Magazines like King routinely feature fair-skinned women with large butts on the cover, but these women are more likely to have cellulite because of skin type.

Magazines drive men to look for unedited women that are perfect. That’s not going to happen. But until a guy realizes this, he’s going to keep looking for something he will never find.

Similarly women feel the need to undergo excessive surgeries in the quest for perfection. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with working out and wearing makeup, but I think that should be the extent of a woman’s beauty efforts. Tummy tucks, breast implants, and butt injections only transfer you to someone you’re not. No man wants to date a woman that is insecure. That explains why someone like our friend Deborahlee Lorenzana still couldn’t find a man.

3. Different people have different tastes. Models like Kim K cover magazines for what they look like unedited. Why speculate and say, I’d bet she’d look even better with bigger breasts or a larger butt? Men have their own preferences. Just put the woman on the cover. If she’s attractive enough to be on it in the first place, I think you’ll be okay if her arms are one millimeter too big.

The moral of the story is you don’t have to be “perfect” to be a perfect 10. Most women gain weight after having kids. Skin is supposed to wrinkle. But it’s okay because that’s the beauty of life.

Just a few weeks ago, Buzzfeed compiled a list of ugly men with hot women. As expected, David Arquette and his wife of 11 year Courtney Cox made that list.

Fast forward to this week and the news outlets are buzzing over the Arquette-Cox separation. To make matters worse, Arquette announced he had an affair on the Howard Stern show.

I read that Arquette started to feel like Cox, 7 years his senior, “babied” him. I also heard they had not had sex in a couple of months. Nevertheless, this is no reason to run into the arms of another woman.

When I first heard the story break, I had to sit back and think “has this guy taken a look in the mirror lately?” His wife clearly is the breadwinner in the family. He really isn’t an attractive man and his wife is smoking hot, especially for 46. More important, they have a young child together. I really don’t think this guy realizes that he’s living a pretty darn good life. And now he’s about to lose it over a cocktail waitress?

Obviously the lack of intimacy in a relationship is a problem, but that’s when you sit down and talk about what’s going on. Communication was and still is the most important aspect to making a relationship work.

There is a silent killer in relationships.  It’s not Facebook per se.  And infidelity is a natural result of it.  That silent killer is having too many choices.

One of the basic principles of economics is the concept of diminishing marginal utility.  In other words, the more you have of something, the happier it makes you.  However, there comes a point when having more will make you less happy.  The every Econ Prof. loves the example of the chocolate chip cookie.  Give me one cookie and I’m happy.  Give me two cookies and I’m even happier.  However, there comes a point when I will get a stomach ache if I eat another one.

Men today face the largest pool of women in the history of mankind.  We can find eligible women everywhere: in our hometowns, at college, at work, online, etc.  There is such thing as having too large of a dating pool.

1. When men have too many choices, they DELAY decisions.  This explains why people are getting married later and later.  I posted earlier about how there are now more unmarried people between 25-34 than married.  And guess what, that range is only going to expand because the chances of a woman getting married after 35 significantly decrease.

2. When men have too many choices, they DON’T MAKE decisions.  The article from #1 explains reports there is a higher number of unmarried people in larger cities.  It’s hard to settle down if there are an abundance of 10s.  I read a book on the sex ratio a couple of years ago and it explained that when there is a higher percentage of women to men, men are less likely to commit (i.e. UGA).  However, when there is a shortage of women, men are more likely to take women off of the market (i.e. GA Tech).

3. When men have too many choices, they MAKE SHALLOW decisions.  Because it is more difficult to process information when we have too many choices, we make cognitive shortcuts.  In the case of dating, we select women based on physical characteristics because we do not have the time to invest in getting to know the person (just think about how you decide to approach a woman on Facebook).

4. When men have too many choices, they GET to PLAY MORE.  This is closely related to #2.  The same book on the sex ratio stresses how women are more likely to engage in nonexclusive relationships when the sex ratio is not in their favor.  In other words, women at schools like UGA with a ratio in favor of men are more likely to take what they can get (i.e. drunken hookups).  However, when women are in demand, women do not have to work as hard to get the attention of men.  If you want to see this phenomenon in action, look no further to Facebook.  Single women know that they are “competing” with millions (roughly 250) of other women and consequently post sexually provocative pictures of themselves to gain the attention of potential suitors.

5. When men have too many choices, they MORE LIKELY to cheat.  I’m too lazy to find an article on point for this proposition, but I think it’s relatively intuitive.  It goes directly to #4.  If there is a shortage of eligible men, women are more likely to get involved with a man in a relationship.  Also, when there is a larger dating pool, it’s easier to cheat and not get caught.

So what do we do? Cities are only getting bigger. Facebook is here to stay.  Women are continuing to outperform men in the classroom.  It’s clear that men are going to have a plethora of choices from here on out.

That’s why I created this site.  Gone are the days when men when men got married because they only had a few women to choose from.  Men must now actively desire to commit/be faithful notwithstanding the social factors making it harder to do so.

Picture Source (I have Flava Flav & VH1, but it’s the best picture I could find)

Not to toot my own horn, but like I said earlier, men are into intelligent women.  I still don’t understand the position that men clearly would prefer a receptionist on her fourth job in three years to an attorney at a “BigLaw” firm espoused by The Legal Tease.

According to the Pew Research Center, the marriages rates for female college grads will soon surpass women that did not attend college.  More specifically, “Among 35-to-39 year-olds, four-fifths of college-educated adults have married but only three-quarters of less educated adults have married.”

You can read the full article at Psychology Today.

Yup you read correctly. For the first time since the Census Bureau has collected marriage data, there have been more people between 25-34 that have never been married than married in that age range. I can’t say I’m shocked, but I am certainly concerned. The national average is 46.3% unmarried 44.9% married, but the numbers are more staggering in metropolises.

In San Francisco, 82% of adults between 25 and 34 had never been married in 2009, the largest share among big U.S. cities. Atlanta, New York and Minneapolis were all among the top 20 U.S. cities with the largest share of never-married young adults, with shares greater than 75%.

The article lists several reasons for this trend including the recession and people putting off marriage to get established in their profession. While more people will get married when the economy turns around, I wouldn’t expect a drastic shift.

We have stripped marriage of any meaning. In the “old days” people got married so they could have sex (with or without a condom). That’s not the case anymore. You also don’t have to be married to live together. Therein lies the question: What does it mean to be married today?

Additionally, and more important I believe, we have too many potential partners. And that will be the topic my next post.

Source: WSJ