It’s no secret that I’m a big Trey Songz fan.  I believe that he is a very talented R&B singer musician.  If you really listen to his music, however, you will see that he takes monogamy seriously.  One of my favorite songs on his Anticipation mixtape was “Infidelity,” in which he talks about he really messed up.   When he sings over Jamie Foxx’ “Blame It”, he says “Beyonce says, if you like it put a ring on it/ And if I did, then the kid wouldn’t cheat on it.”

Most recently, he let loose a new Songz gem entitled “Already Taken.”  It’s a song about a guy who is used to partying it up, but once he finds the right woman, he proudly lets other women know that he’s already taken.  Sounds like the story of my life.

Pardon the language in the song.  I guess he’s really passionate about monogamy (he actually doesn’t curse on his album Ready).

Update: Until I learn how to increase the php size for audio, please enjoy the song on YouTube. And it’s the clean version…even better.

Gordon and Tana

I’m not a fan of reality TV, but I have watched Hell’s Kitchen a few times.  Allegedly Chef Ramsay had an affair with Sarah Symonds, a professional mistress.  When I say professional mistress, I mean she literally wrote a book called “Having an Affair? A Handbook for the Other Woman.

Gordon and his wife Tana have been married for 17-years and have four children.  The allegations date back to 2008.  Tana claims that she trusts her husband.

I believe in the presumption of innocence, but I will say that a few things in this situation are fishy (food reference).  First, Gordon Ramsay is one of numerous reality TV stars.  Why some random woman would call him out seems out.  Second, she’s not that random.  Symonds made an appearance on Hell’s Kitchen.  Now what would a known hoe be doing on a closed set?  Third, Gordon films the show in the U.S. while his wife is back home in the U.K.  Obviously people can be faithful from abroad, but it definitely makes things harder.

Source: Daily Mail

Stop the Psychobabble

Dr. Phil says that you are genetically predisposed to cheat if your ring finger is longer than your index finger.  He says that it is a sign of  higher levels of the Oxytocin hormone and testosterone.  Dr. Paul Zak makes a similar argument based on Oxytocin.

The problem with supersmart psychologists are that they overanalyze simple problems (just like the South Park episode on sex addition).   Men cheating has absolutely nothing to do with science.  It’s relatively simple actually.

1. Every man wants to marry a model or someone that looks like one.  Most men will fail at this mission.  Thus, they live their entire lives trying to vindicate themselves.  If the chance comes up after they are married, they will likely jump at the opportunity to do so.  In their minds, it is better to have a model-like woman after marriage than never at all.

2. Men that are fortunate enough to marry a model or model-like woman are either a) rich or b) have influence/status.  This means that they likely can have other-model like women if they want.  And if you are surrounded by models, then you’re wife just looks average.  How boring, right?

So am I saying that no man can be faithful? Obviously not (I did create this site after all).  What I am saying is that for a man to be faithful, he has to view his significant other as THE best option that he has AND will forever have.  I truly believe that the “average Joe” would be faithful to his dream woman (i.e. Beyonce, Kim Kardashian, Freida Pinton, Megan Fox, Rosa Acosta, etc.) if he had a chance to date her.

It doesn’t hurt if he has self control, which Dr. Phil (contradictorily) admits himself.

All of this isn’t to say that cheaters should get a free pass just because they were born that way. “You still have the ability to choose not to do these things

But self control won’t come until you find that right person.  Anyone can be faithful.  Even a long-ring finger-having guy like myself (see pic above).

Source: NY Post

The Broadway musical “Promises, Promises” is a Mad-Men work about men that have affairs with their secretaries.  It is described as “a cheery songfest about married men screwing their secretaries.”  Maybe it’s me, but I just don’t think you can make humor out of some subjects.  That’s precisely why I refuse to watch “It’s Complicated.”  I just don’t find the selfishness of cheating to be funny.  Can a movie about rape ever be funny?

Source: Daily Beast

The Formerly Happy Couple

That’s honestly a hard question.  Meet Jonas Bergstrom, an admittedly handsome young man that is was engaged to Princess Madeleine of Sweden (who is also very attractive).  Jonas allegedly had an affair with a troll looking college student (doesn’t that seem to be the story with everyone) and now the wedding is called off.

What an idiot.   What makes matters worse is that he apparently had a one night stand.  If you are engaged to a princess that you’ve been dating for 8 years, you mean to tell me that you are willing to throw all of that away for ONE NIGHT of action?  I hope it was worth it.

I realize that people make mistakes, but after 8 years of being faithful, fighting off women should be pretty easy.  Having a one night stand is a rookie movie bro.  Something isn’t adding up.  You don’t have one night stands with unattractive women unless 1) it’s not really a one-night stand and you’ve cheated before or 2) you weren’t happy in the relationship to begin with.  In either case, it’s best for the princess that she didn’t marry this sleezeball.

Take note from Prince Madeleine Elin Nordegren; this is what a (Swedish) lady with dignity looks like.

Source: Daily Mail

The Other Woman

This is one of those times I wish I lived in NY.  Here’s footage of Director Dana Adam Shapiro talking about his movie “Monogamy” with the New York Times.  It is showing at the Tribeca Film Festival.  If you’re in the area, be sure to support it.  I guess I’ll have to see it when it goes to DVD.

I posted a few days ago about how people that were grounded due to the Volcanic Ash in Iceland were using their phones to sign up for marital affairs.  Well at least one couple found used technology for good.  The Australian couple were stranded in Dubai before their big day back home to Britain.  Rather than call the thing off, they got married with their newfound travel buddies and streamed it to their friends in Britain using Skype.

That’s exactly what I’m talking about; love really can overcome all things (natural disasters included).  Instead of figuring out how to get some while you are grounded, why couldn’t those same people that used Illicit Encounters try to video chat with their loved ones?

For some strange reason, I see a romantic comedy coming out of this.

Source: Sydney Morning Herald

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Some people obviously don’t know what love means. After the Iceland volcano eruption, many people travelling too and from the UK were stranded. What did they decide to do? Pull out their phones and sign up for Illicit Encounters, the UK version of Trashy Madison. One would think that they would call their loved one (or be thankful to be alive). If you remember, IE was the same website that people flocked to when they were snowed in. Man those people in the UK are cold…

http://www.prudentpressagency.com/modules/news/article.php?storyid=16707

Peter Griffin is willing to lose is job to be faithful to Lois.  Good for you Peter! Check out this video (that I shortened by a few minutes).