Novel Concept: Don’t Get Married if You’re Not Mature

I just finished reading an article about a Trashy Madison member that signed up after being married less than 2 years.  If a relationship comes crashing down that fast, you OBVIOUSLY weren’t compatible in the first place.  The woman talks about how she didn’t know her her husband was going to be so busy even though they dated for two years and moved in together.  So you thought he was just going to stop being a professional?  That’s something you should think about before you decide to elope.

She says numerous things which clearly indicates that she has no idea what being in a relationship is about. Let’s see here…

I actually don’t know if I would care that much if my husband cheated on me. He travels so much for work anyway, I don’t think I would care if he had sex. I would care if he cuddled in bed with someone afterward, but this is my thing: I think it’s not natural to be attracted to someone for such a long time. I think you can be with someone emotionally for your whole life, but I’m not so sure about sexually.

1. Don’t get into a relationship if don’t even care if the other person is faithful.

2. Don’t get into a relationship if you don’t expect to be attracted to that person forever.

I’ve had boyfriends before, and if it wasn’t working, I would just end it. But I also have plenty of girlfriends who would never break up with somebody unless they had someone else waiting in the wings. So, at first, that’s what I thought this site was.

3. How do you expect to be faithful during marriage when you can’t even be faithful before marriage.

4. If you’re not happy, you need to leave the relationship.  Don’t just sit around until something better comes along.  That’s selfish.  If you’re unhappy, be a big girl and take a leap of faith.

I didn’t want to be with anyone with children, where I might be part of tearing up a family. That was a personal choice for me, and where I drew the line.

5. Don’t get married if you think that sleeping with a married man is not as bad as sleeping with a married man with kids.

I only told a couple of people about him, or the fact that I was active on Ashley Madison at all. My mom knows. I tell her everything. She’s not totally thrilled, but she’s very non-judgmental. More than anything, she doesn’t like the idea that my husband could get hurt, or that anyone’s cheating on anyone. She considers it an affair even if it’s just an emotional one.

6. You’re mother is right, it is an affair even if it is just emotional.

7. Generally mom knows best, but if you’ve got a mom that wouldn’t chew you out for cheating, you probably shouldn’t take her advice.

“Be careful,” she told me. “I don’t know if that’s a good idea.” But she’s done plenty of stupid things, and I’ve stood by her through them all. Her only advice: Maybe you should talk to your husband.

8. Don’t take advice from a mother that has “done plenty of stupid things.”

But he’s not the kind of guy who would go to couples counseling and decide to try to work things out. He’d probably tell me he wanted a divorce. I know he would consider it cheating, even though I haven’t done anything yet.

9. There’s nothing to go to counseling for.  A marriage of less than 2 years is not worth fighting for…

10. When the other person cheats.  You actually have done something. Even your mom knows that.

I really don’t like to talk bad about people, but this woman is completely clueless about what relationships are about.

Source: Lemon Drop