SMH

I swear this Josyln James chick doesn’t know when to stop.  Just last week, she released a website releasing texts that Tiger sent, now she’s stripping in Atlanta while Tiger will be right up the street in Augusta during the Masters.  I don’t know when (or better yet IF), this story will end.

I know you’ve got a lot of money, but Tiger Woods, it must suck to be you.

Source: AJC

You've seen this pic before

Ashley Trashy Madison’s blog recent posted a list of politicians that have cheated since 1915 to demonstrate that they have been both Democrats and Politicians.  Take a look at the list, you may or may not be surprised.

Julie and Randy

LemonDrop will be running a series of articles on couples that have found love online.  Apparently, online dating is more prevalent that pornography (which generally is a good thing from our perspective).

The first couple is Julie and Randy.  They have a really sweet story.  Julie heard about Match.com from a friend.  She decided to try it out.  The world traveler decided to put a profile picture of herself riding an elephant in Thailand.  Randy sparked conversation by identifying the location and things went from there.  Neither Randy, 59, nor Julie, 53, have been married or had kids.  This frees them travel the world together.

That just goes to show you that it’s NEVER too late to find love.

Source: Lemondrop

I just finished reading an article about a Trashy Madison member that signed up after being married less than 2 years.  If a relationship comes crashing down that fast, you OBVIOUSLY weren’t compatible in the first place.  The woman talks about how she didn’t know her her husband was going to be so busy even though they dated for two years and moved in together.  So you thought he was just going to stop being a professional?  That’s something you should think about before you decide to elope.

She says numerous things which clearly indicates that she has no idea what being in a relationship is about. Let’s see here…

I actually don’t know if I would care that much if my husband cheated on me. He travels so much for work anyway, I don’t think I would care if he had sex. I would care if he cuddled in bed with someone afterward, but this is my thing: I think it’s not natural to be attracted to someone for such a long time. I think you can be with someone emotionally for your whole life, but I’m not so sure about sexually.

1. Don’t get into a relationship if don’t even care if the other person is faithful.

2. Don’t get into a relationship if you don’t expect to be attracted to that person forever.

I’ve had boyfriends before, and if it wasn’t working, I would just end it. But I also have plenty of girlfriends who would never break up with somebody unless they had someone else waiting in the wings. So, at first, that’s what I thought this site was.

3. How do you expect to be faithful during marriage when you can’t even be faithful before marriage.

4. If you’re not happy, you need to leave the relationship.  Don’t just sit around until something better comes along.  That’s selfish.  If you’re unhappy, be a big girl and take a leap of faith.

I didn’t want to be with anyone with children, where I might be part of tearing up a family. That was a personal choice for me, and where I drew the line.

5. Don’t get married if you think that sleeping with a married man is not as bad as sleeping with a married man with kids.

I only told a couple of people about him, or the fact that I was active on Ashley Madison at all. My mom knows. I tell her everything. She’s not totally thrilled, but she’s very non-judgmental. More than anything, she doesn’t like the idea that my husband could get hurt, or that anyone’s cheating on anyone. She considers it an affair even if it’s just an emotional one.

6. You’re mother is right, it is an affair even if it is just emotional.

7. Generally mom knows best, but if you’ve got a mom that wouldn’t chew you out for cheating, you probably shouldn’t take her advice.

“Be careful,” she told me. “I don’t know if that’s a good idea.” But she’s done plenty of stupid things, and I’ve stood by her through them all. Her only advice: Maybe you should talk to your husband.

8. Don’t take advice from a mother that has “done plenty of stupid things.”

But he’s not the kind of guy who would go to couples counseling and decide to try to work things out. He’d probably tell me he wanted a divorce. I know he would consider it cheating, even though I haven’t done anything yet.

9. There’s nothing to go to counseling for.  A marriage of less than 2 years is not worth fighting for…

10. When the other person cheats.  You actually have done something. Even your mom knows that.

I really don’t like to talk bad about people, but this woman is completely clueless about what relationships are about.

Source: Lemon Drop

We’ve recently heard about French President Nicholas Sarkozy who allegedly cheated on his wife and Jesse James who definitely cheated on Sandra Bullock.  Both men have fathers that were known adulterers.

This shouldn’t come as a surprise as guys learn lots of behaviors from their fathers.  This goes for domestic violence and cheating.  Sons look up to their fathers and if they see their father doing something, they are going to think it is okay.  Conversely, women may think that a man hitting them or cheating on them is acceptable if they see their mother being treated that way.

I am blessed to have a father that has never hit my mother and never cheated on her.  I aspire to be just like him not only because I BELIEVE in monogamy, but because I want to set an example for my children.

That’s why I absolute love it when people talk about cheating being natural.  We are a product of our upbringing.  Something natural means that it would inevitably happen.  Cheating is not inevitable.  It happens if we become weak and allow it to.  It happens when we have a culture that is tolerate that to that type of behavior.  And it happens when we have generations of fraternization.

That’s why we see that the Manogamy Movement is only for real men.  It takes a certain amount of responsibility to say that you are not going to cheat because you are going to be the leader and protector of your family.  But if you are 100% about this, you likely will fall victim.

Source: Sarkozy

Source: James

It’s hard to reconcile our disdain for cheating when we seemingly enjoy seeing it in theaters.  All of the greatest love stories from Casablanca to The Notebook, illustrate the passion of cheating.  How many movies can you think of where monogamy is depicted as something that is desirable?

I’m not saying that adultery in movies should be banned, but there has to be some type of balance.  Romantic comedies tend to focus on monogamy, but when you think about dramas (which are less corny), they almost always sway in favor of the cheating.  Shakespeare came up with a dramatic way that emphasized monogamy in Romeo & Juliet.  Why can’t today’s directors?

Today Fox News ran an article reminding us about movies with adultery in it.  Remind me why this is considered newsworthy?

Source: Fox News

It’s hard to answer anything to the contrary.  Daily Mail writer Bel Mooney wrote a piece today about how all of the recent scandals (nearly all of them involving men cheating on women), have caused some to doubt whether monogamy still exists.

But it’s hard not to believe that every time a famous person is seen to cheat and still keep his marriage intact, we unconsciously become a little more accepting of adultery  -  a little less swift to make judgments.

I try to search for what people are saying about “monogamy” everyday on Twitter.  Without exception, I see plenty of posts from women questioning whether monogamy still exists.  I respond to them and tell them that it does and there are still people out there fighting for it.

But honestly, I don’t blame them.  It seems like that’s all you see and hear.  There have been at least 12 major scandals in the past year.  That’s an average of one per month.  And it seems like they are happening more frequently given technological slip-ups.

I really do worry about our generation.  I grew up during the Monica Lewinsky scandal.  I can only imagine what it’s like to be an adolescent right now.

The ONLY way we are going to restore faith in monogamy is if we REEXPECT faithfulness and commitment.  That’s why I created the Manogamy Movement.

Source: Daily Mail

And Another One...

Porn star Devon James is saying that she and a friend had a threesome with Tiger. If true, he’ll be eerily close to that magic number 18. According to the article, Woods paid $4,000 for the tryst.

Source: Fox News

Her subject line says it all.  Starts with this paragraph and goes full steam ahead.

Here’s what I asserted: straying spouses, not third parties outside the marriage, are responsible for any harm caused by adultery.  Furthermore, extramarital lovers have the same right to free speech as anyone else. That means that no matter how unseemly we might find it, every one of Tiger Woods’ umpteen mistresses can get paid for writing a book without owing restitution to Elin Woods.

Read her full post here. Seriously folks, let’s keep the blame where it belongs.

Say It Ain't So

It’s no secret that I’m a Google fanatic.  So when I heard that Google CEO Eric Schmidt “allegedly” had a mistress back in 2007, I nearly had a heart attack.  I don’t know too much about Kate Bohner; just that she’s somehow involved with the long seated Apple/Google war (Schmidt apparently gave her an iPhone prototype before it even came out).

Man mistresses get all of the perks.

Source: TUAW