I saw this headline a few days ago and didn’t think about reading it because I didn’t think that there was much of a story here.  I just read the story over lunch (thanks Instapaper!) and I must say that there are some really stupid people in this world.

Basically a Chinese woman decided to undergo plastic surgery to get her man back.  According to the article,

The woman, who works for a web firm, described to the [Shanghai Daily] how her Alba-obsessed 28-year-old ex-boyfriend hung photos of the actress on his walls and stored her image on his mobile phone.

The man demanded Xiaoqing do her make-up as Alba does, even when she slept, and gave her a blonde wig for Christmas, which he asked her to wear all the time.

She told the newspaper they broke up last month when she threw her wig and fake eyelashes to the ground after people laughed at her.

I’m glad that she left that psycho, but of course, there’s more…

But afterwards, she said she reconsidered.

“I love him very much…. that’s why I always followed his opinions. I don’t want to lose him,” the newspaper quoted her as saying.

And that’s why she got plastic surgery to look like Jessica Alba.  I don’t know what this woman looks, like but it doesn’t take much to look like Jessica Alba.  All of these celebrities are just a bunch of smoke and mirrors anyway.

Fortunately, the doctor is performing the surgery for free.  Nevertheless, this woman is pathetic (she claims that she is a psychologically weak person) and this guy is a weirdo. Maybe they really are made for each other.  Smh.

Source: Fox News

The NYT posted an interesting article about the prevalence of open relationships in the gay community.  I was somewhat familiar with this as Matthew, the guy nice enough to transfer the Manogamy.com rights to me, is a gay man in an 8-year monogamous relationship.  He noted how rare this was because many gay individuals do not practice monogamy.

The article also discusses open heterosexual relationships.  The notion of non-monogamy/open relationships/polyamory really boils my blood.  There have been numerous books written on the subject matter and people discuss how it saved their marriage.  Really? Most people probably would be happier if they could screw whoever they wanted, but you should not tarnish the name of marriage in the process.  As I always say, if you want to live the frat boy lifestyle, then do what you do.  But if you are going to be serious with one person and get married, then you marry that one person and one person only.  End of story.

I just want to briefly address the infamous quote from Comedian Chris Rock

“Men are as faithful as their options. If they have no opportunity to cheat, they won’t.”

1. What does it mean to be faithful? Sexting is still cheating.

2. What does it mean to have an opportunity? You have the OPPORTUNITY to flirt with anyone on Facebook.  Before the Internet, our scope of “eligible” women were limited to women that we could actually see.  However, now we can talk to people that we’ve never even met before.

3. There are men that have self-control.  I personally don’t think that ANY man should get married until he believes that he could turn down his “it woman” (i.e. Megan Fox, Kim Kardashian, Beyonce, Frieda Pinto, etc.).  Monogamy is about KNOWING that you will be faithful even when your circumstances change (i.e. you get a promotion, your wife puts on some pounds, you get a new hot coworker).

In sum, we really need to stop using this phrase because men try to use it to justify their indiscretions.

I’ve been hearing about this new show which started last night entitled “The Deep End.” Supposedly it’s Grey’s Anatomy, but it takes place in a law firm.  I haven’t watched it, so I won’t speak on it for too long.  The Managing Partner in the show, Cliff Huddle, apparently cheats on his wife.

The notion of businessmen cheating is not new.  I still must wonder why that is the case. I noticed from my firm experience that attorneys generally had attractive wives.  According to the post below, it’s a power issue.

A powerful man who has the opportunity is a good candidate to cheat. Their wife’s attractiveness has nothing to do with it. No woman can be beautiful enough to keep a man faithful. There has to be something else at play to have him remain fully committed to the relationship.

The notion of “power” is silly because it is relative.  The President of the United States is powerful, but so is a Superintendent, Principal, or Manager at McDonald’s.  The fact of the matter is that guys need to grow up.  If you want to live the frat boy lifestyle, then don’t get married.  It’s simple as that.  You know when you’re mature enough to fight off temptation.

Source: The Brandeis Hoot

What's a Guy to Do?

You really thought that being a man of God stopped people from cheating?  You should know better than that.  Just look at Messy Jesse Jackson.  Today’s next man to take the walk of shame is Pastor Paul Sheppard.  He resigned from his post at Enduring Truth Ministries.  According to the website:

Dear Friend of Enduring Truth,

As many of you may or may not know, Pastor Paul Sheppard recently resigned as an officer and speaker for Enduring Truth Ministries due to moral failure. We’re all deeply saddened by these events. We ask that you remember him and his family in prayer during this trying time.

We wish to thank all of you for your prayerful and financial support of this ministry over the years. End of year giving statements will be mailed by January 31, 2010. After December 31st, 2009, you can call 877-95TRUTH for issues with orders.

By Grace,

Enduring Truth Ministries Staff

What a shame.  It’s one thing to let people down when you are a role model, but it’s even worse when you’re role is to lead people to God.  Apparently the Ten Commandments, Matthew 5:27-30, etc. mean nothing to him.

Source: Daily Times

I know I am a little late on this one, but I just found this when I was surfing the web.  Apparently, Ashley Madison has also been advertising on petroleum trucks across the nation.  Noel & Co.  even managed to get a Hispanic husband with 7 kids (that claims he’s never cheated) to plaster his truck with their trademarked slogan.  It’s sad that most people’s morals can be compromised for the right price.

Advertising on a petroleum truck? There’s nothing classier than that. Anyone that wants to join 1) a marital dating site that 2) advertises on a petroleum truck is trash.

Source: Fox DC

PLEASE Don't Leave Baby!

It’s official, Elizabeth Edwards is FINALLY separated from John Edwards.  This Wednesday announcement came after Edwards admitted to having a love-child with his former videographer last week.   I’m extremely proud of her, but she should have less his butt when she first heard about him cheating in 2008 (assuming that’s the first time she heard about it).

Cheating should be a matter of strict liability.  You get one strike and you’re out.  As long as guys think that their significant others will give them a free pass, they will think they can get away with cheating.

Source: Chicago Tribune

Yesterday we posted about how Avid Media, the company that manages sites like Ashley Madison and Established men were going to go public in Toronto.  Well now, it appears that Friendfinder, formerly Penthouse Media Group, is attempting to do the same.  Friendfinder is the parent company for sites like Bondage.com and Adult Friend Finder.  They are trying to raise nearly 4X (220M v. $60M) as much as Avid Media for their public offering.  On a positive note, Friendfinder is also the parent company for Bigchurch.com. Hallejuah! :-/

Source: Globe & Mail

I was checking my feed last night and saw an article about how a guy named Jon Kuhrt in the United Kingdom has started a Facebook group dedicated to taking down billboards from the internet company Marital Affairs.  The group has gone from about 600 people to over 2500 in less than 24 hours.  The wall and discussion pages are full of pissed off people.  And I’ve never seen anything more beautiful in my life.

At what point are Americans going to get on the bandwagon? Ashley Madison has billboards, print, radio, Internet, and TV ads (they even managed to air a Superbowl commercial in TX last year).  At what point do we say enough is enough?  The Manogamy Movement is picking up a lot of steam, but this should have been done a LONG time ago.

I fully support Jon and sent him and e-mail to see if we can work together somehow.  I can certainly use his man/womanpower.  Moreover, I can use the fact that he has people that are straight up gangster.  These people are calling the Advertising Standards Authority and trying to get these billboards taken down.

The interesting thing is that the billboard is NOWHERE near as racy as Ashley Madison advertisements.  The one in Times Square featured a woman in a bedroom about to perform oral sex with the tagline “Life’s Short, Have an Affair.”  And where was the outrage from this country? SMH.

Update: After getting 3500 people involved, the three Jon’s (yup men are finally taking a stand) got the billboards taken down. Now, they’re trying to take down the company altogether.  Man I wish we had that kind of passion here in the U.S.

I can’t come up with a catchy subject line or any material to describe this Trend Hunter article.  Just go to the site and be shocked.